Marriage is a formal union. It is a social, and legal contract between two imperfect, yet mature individuals that unites their lives legally, economically,and emotionally; as such disagreements are normal and should be sorted out without a third part.. As much as there are issues that must be resolved by involving a third part (this will be discussed later) any spouse who respects and cares for his/her partner should not discuss their marital issues with a third party unless it is an unbiased stranger with zero emotional connection with the parties involved.. When you let your family member(s) into your minor martial issues it goes to show your level of immaturity. It is an emotional abuse. The moment you begin to lay your martial complaints to family members, (especially a perceived wrong doing or maltreatment from your spouse) know it now, you are not only exposing your partner to rashes judgment and distorted counsels laced with sentiments; you are as well, gradually planting seeds of discord and resentments between the “complainee”[sic] and your spouse; you are setting your marriage up for cracks.. Keep in mind; when couples quarrel, makeup and forgive, these family members may not forgive; and over time it’s implications begins to pop up from different angles and gradually the chances of true intimacy, trust and hope that once existed get dissolved.. Marriage should not be a place for criticism and emotional abuse. No happy union thrives in these scenarios. Now what do you think, do these family members still harbour resentments towards in-laws long after the couples have moved on?